1. Start to treat yourself like have been given the job to take care of this human (you) and give them the best experience they can get. If it was your job to take care of this human, what would you feed it? who would you allow them to date? what kind of job would you want them to have? what relationships or people would you like them to be around? by Ahmad Talks
2. Never mistake availability for loyalty. Someone can be available because there is a benefit attached to their availability. One thing about loyalty is that , you cannot know who is loyal to you until the loyalty has been tested. by Ayo Ilepe
3. Trust and vulnerability should never be a given with people. They need to be earned. You get my trust because you have proven to be trustworthy. You earn my vulnerability by proving to be safe and that I can entrust my inner self with you. Never come to me automatically expecting vulnerability and trust.
4. In life you must consider your own walk. Don’t follow other people. Even if it your closest friends or family. The times you have been given on earth, are not the same. The things you were meant to accomplish, are not the same. The level you are at, is not the same. The timings when things are supposed to happen in your lives, are not the same. The seasons you are in, not the same. Consider where you are at, and where you are going, and make that your priority. Don’t do things because other people are doing them.
5. When your empathy is misplaced, you will do things for people that are not your responsibility to do. You will carry emotions triggered by people, that are not your responsibility to carry. You will explain things and decisions to people, that are not your responsibility to explain. When your empathy is misplaced, your responsibility will also be misplaced. You will not know where the boundary lines are correctly or properly supposed to fall.
6. Don’t abandon your own life to go and live some else’s. If you are living your mother’s life, who is going to live yours. If you are living your father’s life, who is living yours. If you’re living you’re friend’s version of life, who is living yours. Who is this mysterious person, that you are waiting for, to assign the job of living your life? Who is this person that you are going to give the script to play you, for you, in life?
7. Capacity doesn’t lie. If you do not have the emotional, psychological or physical capacity for something; your capacity doesn’t lie. If someone in your life doesn’t have the capacity to be there for you or give to you the way you would like, trust that there capacity doesn’t lie. If a cup can only hold so much. it can only hold that much. If we accept this, we can liberate others to seek those who have the capacity. We can also liberate ourselves to seek those who have the capacity.
8. Beware of should. Beware of this is how it should be, because it takes away from what is. Beware of how you should be, because it denies who you are. Beware of how you should go, because it takes away from how you are going. Beware of, this is how you should feel, because you already do feel and it is real. Beware of what you should like, because you already do have an inbuilt like, and dislike. Beware of what you should want, because you already do want. Beware of what is ideal, because it denies what’s real.
9. People may take not being busy as availability. They may not understand that when you are not busy, you may be attending to a need. A need to rest, a need to self regulate, a need to reflect, a need to heal, a need to be with God or even just a need to be with yourself.
10. Your purpose may not always be in the activity that you are doing. You’re purpose may be in your presence and how you make others feel when you are around. It may be in the insight and wisdom that you have. It may also be in the story of your experience. It could even be in your character and values and how they inspire others. It also can be in your authenticity and how it inspires others to be themselves. It could be in your faith and how it inspires others to believe. It isn’t just in your doing.
